Over sharing will only leave you more confused

Lately, I’ve been reflecting a lot on my peace — how steady it feels, how natural it’s becoming, how much lighter life looks from this version of me.

But I realized something important:

I’ve been talking so much about where I am now that I haven’t talked enough about what it took to get here.

So today, I want to go back and revisit a few parts of my journey that shaped this peace. Because if you’re trying to grow, heal, or settle your mind, maybe these pieces can help you get the results you’re looking for too.

For a long time, I didn’t see a single problem with oversharing. I shared everything — my thoughts, my pain, my fears, my confusion — especially with the people I believed were closest to me. It felt natural. It felt like connection. But I was in a dark place back then. Depressed, overwhelmed, searching for understanding anywhere I could find it. And the more I shared, the more opinions I received.

The more opinions I received, the more confused I became.I didn’t realize until much later that oversharing wasn’t giving me clarity. It was taking me further away from my own voice.

I learned the hard way that sometimes when you’re looking for answers, all you end up with is noise — noise that drowns out the very intuition you were supposed to trust.

My biggest lesson?

Be mindful about what you share, and intentional about who you share it with.

Not everybody can hold your pain correctly.

And not every opinion deserves to influence your decisions.You don’t need the world to help you make every move.

Sometimes you need to sit with yourself, talk to God or the universe, and give your own spirit room to speak. Because when you make choices based on other people’s thoughts, you will never feel comfortable with the life you’re building.

Your peace grows the moment your validation stops coming from outside sources.

reflection

1. Why do I feel the need to share everything when I’m hurting?

Is it comfort? Fear of being alone? Wanting to feel understood?

2. Who do I share my deepest thoughts with — and have they earned that access?

Do they support me, or confuse me more?

3. How do I feel after I overshare?

Drained? Embarrassed? Relieved? More anxious?

4. Do I share to be understood, or to avoid sitting with my own feelings?

5. What parts of me deserve to stay sacred, private, and protected?

Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Open Up

• “Am I sharing because I want help, or because I’m overwhelmed?”

• “Is this a safe person to tell?”

• “Will this conversation bring me comfort or confusion?”

• “Do I already know the answer deep down?”

• “What do I actually feel — before anyone else tells me what they think?”

Oversharing didn’t heal me — it scattered me.

Silence didn’t isolate me — it grounded me.

Looking inward didn’t make me selfish — it made me stronger.

Now, in the place I’m in today, the more I filter what I share, the easier it is to hear my own voice.

My clarity, my decisions, and my peace feel cleaner because they come from me — not from the noise of everyone else’s opinions.

Your peace begins where your overexplaining ends.